Psychotherapist, Author, Estrangement Specialist
One of our new members over in the Reconnection Club recently posted an introduction in which she said she was reminding herself to breathe. There was a time in my life when such a thing would have struck me as bizarre; isn’t breathing automatic? Why would anyone need to remember to do it? But the more I learn about breathing, the more I come to understand that not all breathing is automatic Survival breathing is …
Somewhere in Africa, a gazelle is running for its life, chased by a hungry lion. What are the chances that the gazelle is thinking, “This is SO unfair!”? This may surprise you, but I don’t actually know the answer to that. What I do know is that many people would say, “We should be more like that gazelle; just concentrate on doing what we can, rather than wasting time crying ‘Poor me’!” I disagree! Human …
VICTIM: What comes to mind when you hear that word? Don’t be a victim. She’s always playing the victim. I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor. Let me be the first to stand up and say that people should be allowed to use their own words when they talk about themselves. If you identify as a survivor rather than a victim, I honor your truth and your choice of words. But if you feel victimized, …