Remember to Breathe

One of our new members over in the Reconnection Club recently posted an introduction in which she said she was reminding herself to breathe.

There was a time in my life when such a thing would have struck me as bizarre; isn’t breathing automatic? Why would anyone need to remember to do it?

But the more I learn about breathing, the more I come to understand that not all breathing is automatic

Survival breathing is what we do automatically; its only job is to keep us alive. Read More

Life’s Not Fair … And That STINKS!

Pie in faceSomewhere in Africa, a gazelle is running for its life, chased by a hungry lion. What are the chances that the gazelle is thinking, “This is SO unfair!”?

This may surprise you, but I don’t actually know the answer to that.

What I do know is that many people would say, “We should be more like that gazelle; just concentrate on doing what we can, rather than wasting time crying ‘Poor me’!”

I disagree!

Human beings are not gazelles. Read More

The “V” word

VICTIM: What comes to mind when you hear that word?

  • Don’t be a victim.
  • She’s always playing the victim.
  • I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor.

Let me be the first to stand up and say that people should be allowed to use their own words when they talk about themselves. If you identify as a survivor rather than a victim, I honor your truth and your choice of words. But if you feel victimized, I firmly support you in feeling like, and calling yourself, a victim. Read More