Psychotherapist, Author, Estrangement Consultant
Why is it so hard to make important changes in our lives — even the ones we genuinely want?
For instance, why do so many of us find it impossible to make positive lifestyle changes even though our health is at stake?
Robert Kegan, whom I first “met” through his brilliant book The Evolving Self, has an explanation for this puzzling problem. He describes it in this engaging video about his book called Immunity to Change. Read More
Are you sitting down? You might want to stand up for this.
Earlier this year there was a study in the Archives of Internal Medicine that looked at what happens to people who sit too much.
The researchers concluded: “Prolonged sitting is a risk factor for all-cause mortality [death], independent of physical activity.”
Turns out the more you sit, the sooner you die.
Yikes!
I don’t know about you, but most of the work I do, most of my socializing, and actually most of my life, takes place while I’m sitting. Read More
The problem is that we started out as children.
Overcoming that fact can take a lifetime.
Children have no power.
If you had a normal childhood, you didn’t get to choose how or where you spent your time.
You didn’t decide when to go to bed or even what to wear when you got there.
You were told to brush your teeth, eat your vegetables (or face the intolerable prospect of no dessert), and go to school. Read More
1. Believe in your feelings. If you don’t think your own feelings are valid, why should other people?
2. Speak your truth, if only to yourself. Honesty begins at home; don’t hide knowledge from yourself. When you do this, you lose self-respect and self-esteem.
3. Make the most of a sunny day if you wish, but when it’s cold or cloudy, feel free to hide under a blanket. Nature governs the seasons of our lives just as it governs the weather. Read More