Psychotherapist, Author, Estrangement Consultant
Did you ever hear these words when you were a kid? Have you said them yourself?
If you were told, “Stop crying, or I’ll give you something to cry about,” here’s what you learned:
1. The world is a dangerous place.
If Mommy or Daddy or Grandma or the babysitter threatens to make you cry, what might a stranger do?
Trust is necessary for healthy relationships. Read More
This week I’m honored, thrilled, tickled — you name it, I’m feeling it! — to play host to author and parenting renegade Heather Shumaker.
When I found out about her recently published book, I just knew she was someone I wanted to hear more from. And when you read what she has to say, I think you’ll agree that her “renegade” rules make perfect sense.
So without further ado, here’s a tasty tidbit of Heather’s practical parenting advice and timeless words of wisdom. Read More
Little Kidbit comes home from school and declares, “School sucks.”
Carl Coworker looks over the agenda for the upcoming meeting and sighs, “This is going to be a total waste of time.”
Spouse comes home from the grocery store and growls, “That grocery store has the worst parking in town.”
How do you respond?
It’s tempting to debate the facts of the case. You might even see it as an opportunity to do some “positivity training.” Read More
Somewhere in Africa, a gazelle is running for its life, chased by a hungry lion. What are the chances that the gazelle is thinking, “This is SO unfair!”?
This may surprise you, but I don’t actually know the answer to that.
What I do know is that many people would say, “We should be more like that gazelle; just concentrate on doing what we can, rather than wasting time crying ‘Poor me’!”
I disagree!
Human beings are not gazelles. Read More