Why You Shouldn’t Label Yourself

The way people talk about themselves in therapy sometimes, it’s clear that certain things they do are a mystery to them.

“I’m really bad at calling people back,” is the kind of generalization I regularly hear as a therapist.

“Why do you think so?” I ask.

“Um… because I don’t call people back?”

Just as there are reasons for everything you do, there are reasons for the things you don’t do.

In the example above, as soon as we looked at a recent example from the client’s life, we both saw a very good reason for her hesitation in returning the call. Read More

Want to Be Productive? Get Lazy

dog partied out

When it comes to getting things done in life, I find that rest is at least as important as activity.

For example, sometimes I don’t feel like writing a blog post. Other times, I write two or three in a single sitting.

When I’m resting, I do nothing. When I’ve rested well, I can do twice as much. See? It all evens out.

There’s no doubt in my mind that there are seasons in this life, and I’m not talking about summer and winter. Read More