estrangement

Conversations With Your Ex

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woman writing in notebook-fdpAre you hurting from a breakup? Experiencing relationship trouble? Sad or angry about something that happened long ago, or full of regret because you feel you hurt someone?

You might be able to heal a little bit faster using a technique developed by my friend Jody, who agreed to let me use her name in this post.

Write to Heal

After Jody read “Conversations with God,” she got creative and started writing down conversations with people — or rather, with the souls of people —  she needed to resolve things with. Read More

Estrangement Takes Two, Part 2

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Being cut off from someone you love is not only painful but apparently common, judging from the amount of feedback I receive about the estrangement advice on my website.

In that article, I advise the person who’s been cut off and wants to reconcile to act on all those good cliches: turn the other cheek, be the bigger person, and do whatever it takes to apologize and make amends.*

Outraged By Estrangement

Well.

That advice riles many readers. Read More

Estrangement Takes Two

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If someone has cut you off, and the two of you aren’t speaking, it can feel like something is being done to you. It’s like you’re the victim and they’re the perpetrator.

But if you take a step back and look at the entire picture over time, it’s probably not quite like that.

Two Perpetrators, Two Victims

Do you have an email, mailing address, website, or phone number for the person?

Do you know where they work or play? Read More

When Adult Children Won’t Talk to Their Parents

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Photo of estrangement by T. GilbertsonThere’s an article about estrangement on my website that gets more feedback than any article I’ve written before or since. In that article, I offer strategies for the person who’s been cut off by someone and wants to get back together.

The gist of it is this: Like it or not, whether you agree with them or not, the “cutter-offer” perceives a reason for cutting you off.  If you want to reunite, it’s up to you to make amends rather than expecting them to see the error of their ways. Read More