emotions

Stop Worrying Right This Second

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Worrying is a coping mechanismWhat are you worried most about right now? Finances? A relationship? Someone’s health?

All of those are significant. Trouble with any is worrisome.

But as we know, worrying is pointless. It can’t pay the bills, repair a relationship, or heal a disease. 

But still, we worry.

Focus on Feelings

If you want to stop worrying, you’ve got to control your focus. Everyone knows this. But what everyone doesn’t necessarily know is that it’s not a matter of changing what you think about. Read More

The Surprising Upside to Wallowing in Despair

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Despair figure with happy silhouetteWho is there among us who hasn’t felt the chill of despair at one time or another?

With the cold, gray winter enveloping so many of us, I thought this might be a good time to review some emotional survival tips, and underline the happy truth that wallowing in despair can bring rich rewards.

There is such a thing as severe depression. That’s what medication is for, and it can literally be a life-saver.

But for the millions suffering from losses in the past or the present while still going about their business, working through those sad, bad feelings with constructive wallowing can lift the dark veil and bring new life, just in time for spring. Read More

5 Ways to Feel (and Heal) Your Feelings

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You've got to feel 'em to heal 'emYou’ve heard me say many times that the reason to let yourself feel bad is so that you can feel better sooner.

So how exactly do you do that?

It’s one thing to say, “Feel your feelings,” but what exactly does that look like?

In essence, it means honoring your real feelings, and yourself, when you’re hurting.

Erin Leyba’s wonderful article offers some really practical tips for doing just that.

Enjoy!

5 Ways to Honor Sadness Instead of Distracting From It

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How to Talk to Yourself When You’re Upset

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cartoon woman with megaphoneHave you been using the T-R-U-T-H Technique for getting past difficult feelings after an upset?

Maybe there was an argument that left you feeling icky.

Maybe someone said or did something that hurt your feelings.

Maybe you hurt someone else’s feelings.

Instead of replaying the event over and over in your head, which just makes you feel worse and gets you stuck in those rotten feelings…

The T-R-U-T-H Technique gives you a way to make your wallowing constructive. Read More