The Secret Ingredient in Healthy Relationships

couple in kitchenAlice’s husband, Bob, does something that hurts her feelings.

So what does she do?

Alice tells Bob he’s insensitive and inconsiderate.

This hurts Bob’s feelings. So what does he do?

Bob responds by telling Alice she’s too demanding.

An argument ensues, of course.

And it never really gets resolved.

Bob and Alice get into it like this at least once a week. Both are unhappy about it.

Neither one believes the relationship to be healthy, but they’re no sure what to do. Read More

6 Tips for Better Boundaries

woman standing her groundToday’s post is essentially a letter to myself, in that it’s about something I struggle with personally: Boundaries.

Check it out. It’s like I wrote myself a boundaries to-do list, and you just happen to be reading along.

If you have trouble with boundaries sometimes and can relate, that’s awesome.

But basically I’m writing for myself this week.

Please leave a note in the comments if you have any words of inspiration or tips to share. Read More

4 Tips for Dealing With Stubborn People

Guy with fingers in earsHave you ever offered perfectly good advice to a loved one and been baffled as to why it fell on deaf ears? I have.

When the best course of action is clear and yet remains ignored by the person who most needs that knowledge, what’s going on?

This week I had the privilege of reading the transcript of a recent address by psychoanalyst Elio Frattaroli, author of one of my favorite books, Healing the Soul in the Age of the Brain. Read More

Don’t Speak Up, Speak In

If you’re in a workplace that’s sucking the life out of you, making you furious or otherwise driving you nuts, you might NOT want to speak up about it.

People who speak up about what’s wrong at work are often labeled negative.

If you have feelings about what’s going on in the workplace but you don’t want to make waves, telling yourself what’s up can calm you down.

Be Your Own Confidant

You may have friends at work, but can you trust them completely with sensitive information? Read More