Self-Help

Find support for healing and change in these practical self-help articles.

Overcome the Self-Criticism Habit

As a counselor, I meet a lot of people who criticize themselves constantly. If anything bad happens, it’s because the person is stupid, incompetent, thoughtless, a terrible parent, a terrible spouse, etc. The constant negative mental chatter ratchets up to a full-blown rant whenever something goes wrong. It’s beyond just critical thinking and self-regulation. It’s …

10 Steps to the Perfect “To Do” List

Having never been detail-oriented, let alone organizationally gifted, I’ve always had a hard time following to-do lists. Still, I have things I want to accomplish, so I’ve made lists all my life. Usually they collect on my desk with other scraps of paper until I throw them out, either accidentally or on purpose. But this …

The positive power of negative affirmations

I enjoy going on long hikes with my partner, Mike. We both love to exercise, and hiking gives us a chance to talk for hours about random things while enjoying Nature. Towards the end of a long hike, or if the trail gets really steep in the middle and we get tired, one of us …

Step Up to the Plate and Think Like a Country

More often than not, when I have a problem and need to make a decision, I ask other people what they would do if they were in my shoes. Then I decide whether to follow their advice or … ask someone else! I’ve always thought of this as due diligence, but if I’m honest with …

Unbidden thoughts of catastrophe

Recently I asked this question on my Facebook page: “Do you ever have spontaneous daydreams about awful things happening, like, ‘What if I was mowing the lawn and I accidentally ran over my foot?’” No one replied. I’m relatively new to the social networking scene and still learning the ropes. I’m guessing no one answered …