Security is comfy, isn’t’ it? It’s like being able to stay home all day in your pajamas, surrounded by your stuff, knowing what to expect from the cat, the TV, and the kitchen faucet that drips once an hour. The big, ugly outside world isn’t there to bother you, or judge you, or expect anything from you.
What would we do without a basic sense of security? Probably not much. Security allows us a reasonable expectation of safety. Without that, we’d pretty much need to spend all our time worrying and planning for disaster.
Of course, having security means sticking with what’s familiar. Safety requires predictability. If anything could happen, anything just might!
The cost of security, then, is limitation on how far (or whether) we can venture outside our comfort zones.
E.g., If I want a new career, I might have to leave my old one and take a leap of faith. If my need for security is greater than my need to be free from my old career, I might never take that leap.
How often do we really consider the cost of overvaluing security? What happens to our lives and our potential if we don’t make conscious choices about how much security and freedom to allow ourselves in any given instance?
The price of security is loss of freedom — the freedom to explore, to make attempts at achieving our dreams, even to grow as people. All of that requires stepping away from what we know and toward the unpredictable, the unknown.
The more we need to feel secure, the more freedom we lose.
I wrote some thoughts on this tension between security and freedom, along with a checklist and some tips for bringing in more freedom to balance this yin-and-yang-like duo.
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