The need for validation, whether conscious or not, is universal. We all want to feel acceptable, worthy, and not-kooky in other people’s eyes. But what is validation, anyway? Most of us are a little fuzzy on this concept, and for good reason: Validation can be hard to come by in everyday life. Let’s talk first … Read more
Even though there’s a lot of talk about how entitled young people are these days, I see a lack of entitlement among all age groups in my practice as a therapist. I see people putting up with pretty poor behavior from people they love, without uttering a word of protest. Or, if they do protest, … Read more
I’m bad at confronting people — I don’t always choose the right words because I’m so nervous about having the conversation in the first place — but I’m even worse at suffering in silence.
So when something’s up between me and someone else I just have to say something, even though it’s guaranteed to be awkward and uncomfortable (at least for me).
Last week, I was giving a presentation to other mental health professionals when the talk turned to unmet emotional needs.
This is the kind of thing we therapists tend to discuss when we get together. That, and reality TV shows. Or maybe that’s just me.
Unmet emotional needs are often unconscious, and they cause all sorts of havoc in our lives.
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