Psychology

These articles feature psychological topics.

Overcome the Self-Criticism Habit

As a counselor, I meet a lot of people who criticize themselves constantly. If anything bad happens, it’s because the person is stupid, incompetent, thoughtless, a terrible parent, a terrible spouse, etc. The constant negative mental chatter ratchets up to a full-blown rant whenever something goes wrong. It’s beyond just critical thinking and self-regulation. It’s …

Shame is a Useless Emotion

You might think that without shame, the world would fall into chaos. If we never felt ashamed of ourselves, we wouldn’t care if our actions inconvenienced, embarrassed or emotionally devastated others because no matter what we did, we wouldn’t experience the emotional consequences of our behavior. Thus, shame seems useful. At home, at work, even …

The “V” word

VICTIM: What comes to mind when you hear that word? Don’t be a victim. She’s always playing the victim. I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor. Let me be the first to stand up and say that people should be allowed to use their own words when they talk about themselves. If you identify as …

The Green-Eyed Monster

In honor of St. Patrick’s Day, I thought I’d write about the color green. And because I’m all about emotions, today’s topic is the Green-Eyed Monster, also known as jealousy. First things first: What’s the difference between jealousy and envy? Quite simply, envy is when we want something someone else has, that rightfully belongs to …