Who among us can honestly say they’ve never behaved in a passive-aggressive way?
When I’m not being assertive, passive-aggression is my go-to. I figure it’s better than outright aggression, and I don’t seem to be wired for passivity, so sometimes it feels like the best option.
There are hundreds — maybe thousands — of subtle ways to avoid being assertive.
This week’s article, in which I happen to be quoted, is a survey of just a few of the twisted moves we make to get around saying what we mean.
Most of these sound pretty intentional to me, and fall more on the aggressive side.
But as I say in the article, I don’t think passive-aggressive behavior is used as a weapon on purpose. At least, not usually.
I doubt most of us even recognize what we’re doing when we make a passive-aggressive maneuver.
In those not-so-proud moments, we’re setting aside our right as adults to simply state our wants, needs, preferences and opinions clearly.
Why is being passive-aggressive so much easier than asserting ourselves?
Check out the article at this link and let me know what you think: