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Negative Self-Talk: Both Cause and Effect of Injured Self-Esteem

looking in mirrorWe can be so mean to ourselves.

“Who do you think you are?”

“Well, THAT was dumb.”

“Just shut up right now; you’re making a fool of yourself.”

And on and on. Why do we do this to ourselves?

It’s learned behavior.

No one comes out of the womb thinking, “Geez, I’m such a pathetic loser.”

This week’s post explores the impact of name-calling — even inside our own heads — on self-esteem:

Break Bones? No, but Name-Calling Can Injure Self-Esteem

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About Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children through therapy, consulting, and ReconnectionClub.com, an online support and information hub for parents. The author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them" and the "Guide for Parents of Estranged Adult Children," Tina is often featured in the media as an expert on communication and relationships. Her blog on PsychologyToday.com is called "Constructive Wallowing."

0 Responses to "Negative Self-Talk: Both Cause and Effect of Injured Self-Esteem"

  • multnoma
    September 6, 2014 - 12:36 pm Reply

    Ok. I get that I am holding myself back by calling names. Even if only in my head. Or under my breath.
    But it’s only another item on the list of what I shouldn’t do.

    I don’t know what I *should* do. Where is the list for that?

    • Tina Gilbertson
      September 7, 2014 - 12:59 pm Reply

      Multnoma, I started to respond to your comment and discovered that I was writing a blog post.

      So that’s what I’m going to do. Please see next week’s post for my thoughts, and thank you very much for your comment!

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