How to Talk to Yourself When You’re Upset

cartoon woman with megaphoneHave you been using the T-R-U-T-H Technique for getting past difficult feelings after an upset?

Maybe there was an argument that left you feeling icky.

Maybe someone said or did something that hurt your feelings.

Maybe you hurt someone else’s feelings.

Instead of replaying the event over and over in your head, which just makes you feel worse and gets you stuck in those rotten feelings…

The T-R-U-T-H Technique gives you a way to make your wallowing constructive.

In this week’s post I look more closely at the first “T” of the Technique, which stands for “Tell yourself the situation.”

Sometimes it’s easier said than done.

But you know what? It’s pretty much impossible to get it wrong.

Here’s why…

How NOT to Abandon Yourself | Psychology Today

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0 thoughts on “How to Talk to Yourself When You’re Upset”

  1. Great article, thank you Tina! The word ‘inadequate’ resonated with me. Just yesterday my mind was spinning about some tasks I hadn’t gotten done as soon as I’d wanted, feeling guilty that I let some people down. And worried that because of it, the event we are planning would suffer. This is an area I get stuck a lot. But I’d never connected it with the feeling of inadequacy. I bet being able to label that feeling will help me feel better a lot faster next time I’m not able to get a task done, or get it done as well as I’d hoped. Thank you again!

    • The word “inadequate” resonates with a lot of us, Cheryl. Often we’re not even aware of it.

      I’m glad to hear you made a connection that may help you in the future. That’s my best hope when I write posts like this. Thank you so much for the feedback.


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