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Read This ONLY If You’re Easily Embarrassed

Would you be embarrassed to be seen like this?Embarrassing moments can strike at any time.

For example, many years ago, my brother and his girlfriend were enjoying lunch at one of those sushi places where the dishes come around on a conveyor belt. Whenever you’re ready for your next bite, boom! there’s fresh food floating by right in front of you. You just reach out to the conveyor belt and scoop a plate off it.

Personally, I love a good sushi train. But on that fateful day, something unexpected happened.

Oh, Soy Can You See?

Somehow, one of the plates that had already gone past caught the corner of something.

Soon, the plates behind it started piling up. Then, with a noisy clatter, plates started falling and spilling their contents … right onto the table where my brother and his girlfriend were seated.

My brother, recognizing that he and his girlfriend hadn’t caused the accident, hardly flinched. However, his girlfriend all but disintegrated into a puddle of embarrassment.

And it’s true: Millions of people would have been embarrassed by what happened, even if they weren’t the cause of it. It’s as if it happened to them instead of just happening near them.

If you belong to that slightly more sensitive tribe, you’ll want to read my article below. In it, I talk about new research on how to keep yourself from drowning in embarrassment when “soy” happens.

Here it is: Embarrassed? Here’s How to Get Over It Quickly

(And when you’re done with that one, circle back here and read why shame is a useless emotion.)

About Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children through therapy, consulting, and ReconnectionClub.com, an online support and information hub for parents. The author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them" and the "Guide for Parents of Estranged Adult Children," Tina is often featured in the media as an expert on communication and relationships. Her blog on PsychologyToday.com is called "Constructive Wallowing."

4 Responses to "Read This ONLY If You’re Easily Embarrassed"

  • Susan Thayer
    April 5, 2018 - 12:29 am Reply

    Thank you Tina. If I should feel embarrassed I will [change my perspective].
    Miss you in PDX. I think I need a ‘Tina’ tune-up?

  • Tina Gilbertson
    April 5, 2018 - 1:29 pm Reply

    Thanks for stopping by, Susan. I always appreciate your comments.

  • Bill Kress
    March 4, 2019 - 8:10 am Reply

    I have a friend who this describes exactly…he’s a really nice guy but is so concerned about being embarrassed socially that he often avoids social ituations or even going outside at all. I’m afraid to forward this article to him as it will probably embarrass him, but it would certainly help him to know that he is not alone.

    • Tina Gilbertson
      March 4, 2019 - 12:30 pm Reply

      That’s so tricky, Bill. How to help someone get over being easily embarrassed, when just the fact of your helping would embarrass them? Maybe that can be our Daily Puzzle… Thanks for your comment.

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