If you’re in a workplace that’s sucking the life out of you, making you furious or otherwise driving you nuts, you might NOT want to speak up about it.
People who speak up about what’s wrong at work are often labeled negative.
If you have feelings about what’s going on in the workplace but you don’t want to make waves, telling yourself what’s up can calm you down.
Be Your Own Confidant
You may have friends at work, but can you trust them completely with sensitive information?
If you let off steam verbally, there’s always a chance your words could come back to haunt you.
Here are some things at work that might make you want to scream:
- You work all weekend to turn in something that was absolutely needed first thing Monday morning, and your boss says, “Oh, that? I don’t need that anymore.”
- Blatant favoritism
- Bumbling inefficiency that’s embraced by management
- Refusal of management to change policies despite overwhelming evidence that change is needed
And on and on.
If you want to keep your sanity, you need to be able to shout, “This sucks!!!”
But if you want to protect your reputation, you can’t do that.
… At least, not out loud.
A Quiet Rebellion
Instead, make a point of saying exactly how you feel inside your head!
Here’s what it might look like…
While you sit there nodding in a meeting, scream “This is insane!” inside your head.
While your boss leans over you trying to intimidate you into working late, acknowledge silently to yourself: “She’s trying to intimidate me. I am so sick of this.”
No one will hear you. No one can judge you.
But you will know how you feel, and you’ll silently let off some steam. Be sure to side with yourself for best results.
Once the pressure is off, you can do some perspective-taking, if required. But it’s hard to do that when you’re ticked off.
Tell it to someone who cares: You.
That way your feelings won’t gang up on you later and come out in harsh or negative words.
Remember: You’re never more alone than when you abandon yourself.
Give it a try, and let me know how it goes.
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