The Self-Compassion Cure

Heart in handSelf-compassion might not help you find a job, but it reminds you of your value while you search.

Self-compassion might not erase the regrettable thing you said or did, but it allows you to forgive yourself.

Self-compassion might not bring back a lost love, but it nurtures you while you grieve.

Self-compassion might not protect you from rejection by others, but it prevents you from abandoning yourself.

Self-compassion might not help you buy or sell a house, but it will build you a comfortable home in your own heart. Read More

10 Simple Ways to Feel Good Today

1. Believe in your feelings. If you don’t think your own feelings are valid, why should other people?

2. Speak your truth, if only to yourself. Honesty begins at home; don’t hide knowledge from yourself.  When you do this, you lose self-respect and self-esteem.

3. Make the most of a sunny day if you wish, but when it’s cold or cloudy, feel free to hide under a blanket. Nature governs the seasons of our lives just as it governs the weather. Read More

How to Assert Yourself Without Being Mean

Someone asks you to lend them money. Not a lot. Just enough so you’ll miss it and wonder if you’ll see it again. You’d rather not lend it, but you can’t say no. You give it up, then resent the person for not paying you back without your having to ask.

You visit the home of an acquaintance and she says, “My dog is super friendly. Let me know if he’s bothering you.” Fifteen minutes and a gallon of slobber on your pants later, you offer a silent prayer of thanks when the dog gets bored with you and decides to torment his chew toy instead. Read More

Go With the Flow of an Unproductive Day

Bad day!

Recently I had one of those days when nothing went smoothly.

The chores I’d planned to do before going to the office were thwarted by unexpected circumstances. Clients didn’t show for appointments. I found myself aimlessly checking for emails that never came. I couldn’t get behind anything on my To-Do List to salvage some productivity out of the day. All in all, the day was a complete dud.

At some point I realized that I was having a frustrating, unproductive, boring, wasted day. Read More