Self-Help

For Those Thinking of Taking a Leap

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take a leap ... slowlyIn 2001, I took a leap.

I up and quit my sexy job in TV to pursue a more meaningful career in the helping professions.

It was a needed change, but getting there wasn’t all sunshine and roses. Overnight I went from HBO to the H-E-L-L of unemployment.

I was living in New York City at the time, and in a feat of bad timing I quit right before 9/11. Suddenly there were thousands of people out of work, flooding the temp agencies where I was trying to stay afloat until I could start a new career. Read More

Making Decisions Gets Easier With Practice

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Young woman making decisionsI don’t like making decisions, especially about stuff I don’t have strong feelings about.

I find it easier to defer to others when I’m not sure what to do. Because guess what: It IS easier to leave decisions to other people. It’s like letting someone else clean your kitchen. How easy is that?

Making decisions all the time is a chore and a  half … but it’s one that pays off in the long run.

Think of it like exercising your muscles. Read More

Do You Have an Inner Bully?

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Bully tripping someoneOne day, almost 20 years ago, I was standing on a corner waiting for the light to change so I could cross the street.

I was spaced out, not thinking about much of anything, when I suddenly heard a faint voice inside my head.

It wasn’t so much a voice as a feeling. But it had a definite message.

Out of nowhere, it said to me, “You suck.”

Short, but not sweet.

This was how I learned I had low self-esteem; I heard a bully talking to me, from right inside my own head! Read More

How to Stop Procrastinating (Or Not)

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I was playing hooky at the beach this past week.
I was playing hooky at the beach this past week.

It’s ironic that it’s taken me so long to share this post with you, but hey, we therapists are only human.

Scratch the surface of someone who writes about procrastination and you’ll find a procrastinator underneath.

Okay, so now that I’ve outed myself as a some-time procrastinator, I’d like to share a recent post with you from my PsychologyToday.com blog.

You’ll notice I came up with 6 practical tips for overcoming procrastination. Read More