Why You DON’T Need to Stay Positive

Young boy select between positive and negative expressionsMy old doctor’s office handed out a brochure called 7 Tips for Healthy Living. One of those tips was “Keep a positive mental outlook.”

I like that they linked physical and emotional health, but I’m not sure they got the details quite right.

We’ve all heard of people who bring joy to everyone around them with their sunny outlook, yet succumb to cancer in the prime of their lives.

And there’s also the cliche about mean old people who are “too ornery to die.” Read More

Fat On the Inside

Russian doll inside othersNo one has ever called me fat.

A boy named Howard called me “bean pole” and “Mother Goose legs” in the 5th grade. I was skinny and my legs were long, in case the Mother Goose reference confused you.

(It still confuses me. I thought Mother Goose was an old woman who was not particularly tall. Tell me if I’m wrong.)

But I’ve never been called fat. Not even once. Unlike millions of other people, I bear no scars from fat-bashing bigots. Read More

Facing a Scary Diagnosis

man with head in hands“You have cancer.”

Nobody wants to hear those words, but this year over 1.5 million people in the U.S. will become members of a club none of us wants to join.

Being diagnosed with cancer, Parkinson’s, ALS, or any other dreaded condition can knock you to your knees.

The emotional impact can’t be overstated.

Kenya McCullum writes about how to navigate the emotional landscape of a frightening diagnosis.

It’s worth a read if you or someone you know is facing a serious illness. Read More

8 Ways to Treat Yourself Right

woman getting facialHave you ever thought of volunteering in order to feel happier?

I’ve definitely heard this idea from clients who are feeling stuck and miserable.

“I tried volunteering, but it didn’t make me feel better,” they tell me after the fact.

This doesn’t surprise me.

You can’t give water from a dry well.

We all need to fill the well somehow if we want to be generous and kind to others.

Recently I came across an article with some ideas on just how to do that. Read More