Body-Mind Connection

These articles highlight the connection between body and mind.

Remember to Breathe

One of our new members over in the Reconnection Club recently posted an introduction in which she said she was reminding herself to breathe. There was a time in my life when such a thing would have struck me as bizarre; isn’t breathing automatic? Why would anyone need to remember to do it? But the …

Why You DON’T Need to Stay Positive

My old doctor’s office handed out a brochure called 7 Tips for Healthy Living. One of those tips was “Keep a positive mental outlook.” I like that they linked physical and emotional health, but I’m not sure they got the details quite right. We’ve all heard of people who bring joy to everyone around them with their sunny …

Fat On the Inside

No one has ever called me fat. A boy named Howard called me “bean pole” and “Mother Goose legs” in the 5th grade. I was skinny and my legs were long, in case the Mother Goose reference confused you. (It still confuses me. I thought Mother Goose was an old woman who was not particularly …

Facing a Scary Diagnosis

“You have cancer.” Nobody wants to hear those words, but this year over 1.5 million people in the U.S. will become members of a club none of us wants to join. Being diagnosed with cancer, Parkinson’s, ALS, or any other dreaded condition can knock you to your knees. The emotional impact can’t be overstated. Kenya …

8 Ways to Treat Yourself Right

Have you ever thought of volunteering in order to feel happier? I’ve definitely heard this idea from clients who are feeling stuck and miserable. “I tried volunteering, but it didn’t make me feel better,” they tell me after the fact. This doesn’t surprise me. You can’t give water from a dry well. We all need …

Emotions and Heart Health

In my post, Emotional Regulation is Nonsense, I wrote about why it’s more important to control your behavior than to try to control how you feel. Recently I learned about a new study indicating that trying to control your emotions — especially so-called “negative” ones — can actually harm your health. You can read it …

Do You Feel Younger Than You Are?

The year was … well, never mind. I was in college, and I was having an unusually candid conversation with one of my college professors. He was forty-three at the time, and he remembered sitting on a hill with his friends when he was twelve, back in the country of his birth. He told me …

Want to Be Productive? Get Lazy

When it comes to getting things done in life, I find that rest is at least as important as activity. For example, sometimes I don’t feel like writing a blog post. Other times, I write two or three in a single sitting. When I’m resting, I do nothing. When I’ve rested well, I can do …

Tips for Quick Stress Relief

This week I’m excited to share one of the most thorough and practical articles I’ve seen on stress and how to deal with it. I had never heard of using your senses to fight stress, but it makes sense. That’s just one of a panoply of ideas presented in the article. Most of my stress …

We Are Not Brains

As a mental health counselor, and as a human being, I’m tired of hearing about the human brain. Nowadays you can’t discuss depression, anxiety, resilience or even a bad day without someone bringing up brain chemistry. A counselor can’t swing a box of Kleenex without hitting a professional training on “The Neurobiology of Narcissism” or …

Conquering Couch-Potatoism

Are you sitting down? You might want to stand up for this. Earlier this year there was a study in the Archives of Internal Medicine that looked at what happens to people who sit too much. The researchers concluded: “Prolonged sitting is a risk factor for all-cause mortality [death], independent of physical activity.” Turns out …

Why We NEED to Sweat the Small Stuff

Everyone has emotional pain. No one is immune to the slings and arrows of life on this earth, and most of us have unhealed hurts from our time here. We think we can let go of the pain of things that happen to us, but it’s not that easy. We didn’t choose the pain in …

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