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Self-Esteem

9 Signs of Healthy Self-Esteem

What do you think of a person who always speaks well of others? Does she have high or low self-esteem? You could argue that in order to speak well of others, one must think highly enough of oneself not to be threatened by other people’s excellence. Such a person could be thought to enjoy healthy self-esteem. On the other hand, you might say that a person who always speaks highly of others is a people-pleaser who suffers from low self-esteem. So which is it? A single trait or behavior by itself isn’t a good indicator of self-esteem. But having said …

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8 Things to Absolutely Expect in Relationships

Even though there’s a lot of talk about how entitled young people are these days, I see a lack of entitlement among all age groups in my practice as a therapist. I see people putting up with pretty poor behavior from people they love, without uttering a word of protest. Or, if they do protest, there are no consequences when the other person ignores them and keeps on behaving the same way. There seems to be a pervasive fear — and when I say pervasive, I mean I feel it too — of getting too … uppity. I believe this …

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Replacing “Don’ts” With “Do’s” for Self-Esteem

After last week’s post on name-calling and how it ruins your self-esteem (and possibly other people’s as well), a reader called Multnoma left the following comment:  Ok. I get that I am holding myself back by calling names. Even if only in my head. Or under my breath. But it’s only another item on the list of what I shouldn’t do. I don’t know what I *should* do. Where is the list for that? Multnoma’s comment was right on the money; it’s relatively easy to come up with a “Don’t” list. This is one of those times when mental health …

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Negative Self-Talk: Both Cause and Effect of Injured Self-Esteem

We can be so mean to ourselves. “Who do you think you are?” “Well, THAT was dumb.” “Just shut up right now; you’re making a fool of yourself.” And on and on. Why do we do this to ourselves? It’s learned behavior. No one comes out of the womb thinking, “Geez, I’m such a pathetic loser.” This week’s post explores the impact of name-calling — even inside our own heads — on self-esteem: Break Bones? No, but Name-Calling Can Injure Self-Esteem Photo courtesy of www.FreeDigitalPhotos.net Tina Gilbertson Latest PostsAbout Tina GilbertsonTina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in …

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