When I get mad or sad and someone tells me to “let it go,” I get madder and sadder.
What terrible advice that is. “Let it go.”
Ugh. What does that even mean?
And anyway, it’s impossible.
You can’t let go of what happened. It went down exactly the way it did, so there’s no changing (or “letting go” of) that.
You can’t let go of the feeling you’re left with, either.
The feeling has to “let go” of you first.
I ranted about this (albeit in my quiet way) in this week’s post on Psychology Today:
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not suggesting you go around stamping your feet and letting everyone know you’re ticked off.
I’m just advocating self-compassion. Give yourself the room and the time to process how you feel.
Don’t be in a hurry to get over it by trying to “let it go.”