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Just Freaking ASK

asking for somethingI’ve written before about how it never hurts to ask for what you want, but…

Since Elizabeth Gilbert is a far better writer than I am, I thought I’d share with you a short article of hers that inspired me this week.

It was a timely read for me, because just the other day someone suggested I expand my work into an intriguing new arena.

My response was hesitant — not because I didn’t want to do it, but because I couldn’t imagine who would hire me.

Gilbert’s simple article inspired me to “just freaking ask” for the opportunity when the time comes.

I hope her words inspire you, too. The article is here:

How to Be Happier – Elizabeth Gilbert

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About Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children through therapy, consulting and other resources, and offers assertiveness training and executive coaching for organizations. The author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them" and the "Guide for Parents of Estranged Adult Children," Tina is often featured in the media as an expert on communication and relationships. Her blog on PsychologyToday.com is called "Constructive Wallowing."
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0 Responses to "Just Freaking ASK"

  • bookishheather
    August 23, 2014 - 9:04 am Reply

    What is this intriguing new arena? : ) Loyal blog followers want to know!

    • Tina Gilbertson
      August 24, 2014 - 1:26 pm Reply

      It would be working with organizations on emotional wellness projects. I’ve done a little of this in the past, but always through people I know. It will take some asking to expand my work in this area.

      Thanks for (freaking) asking. 😉

  • MissMaura9999
    August 23, 2014 - 12:01 pm Reply

    Having one of those “slow computer” days so I can’t get in to read Elizabeth Gilbert’s article, but I love these quotes:
    “If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. If you don’t ask, the answer is always no. If you don’t step forward, you’re always in the same place.”
    – Nora Roberts

    • Tina Gilbertson
      August 24, 2014 - 1:30 pm Reply

      As usual you have the perfect quotation to offer, Miss Maura.

      I just love the irrefutable argument, “If you don’t ask, the answer is always no.” Makes you realize the importance of making requests if you want something specific in life.

      Thank you very much for sharing those pithy words of wisdom.

  • Cheryl Peddie
    August 25, 2014 - 7:20 am Reply

    Elizabeth Gilbert’s quote “The funny thing is that rejection is not so bad, really.” was an epiphany for me. I’m sure many of us equate having our ideas, our needs and wants being rejected, with our whole selves being… wrong…not worthy of acceptance; of fulfillment. But that’s so wrong, isn’t it? One (or ten) people saying no maybe only means that they don’t understand it, or any of a hundred other things. It’s weird how we jump to concluding that another person’s opinion equals ‘fact’. Thank you for your work, Tina, and for sharing Elizabeth’s article. Very helpful.

    • Tina Gilbertson
      August 25, 2014 - 4:59 pm Reply

      Cheryl, you hit the nail on the head with your observations on rejection. It does feel like an indictment of our entire selves as human beings sometimes!

      Thanks for being so open to sharing your personal growth journey with me and your fellow Tidbitsians.

      Personally, as I get older, it becomes easier to distinguish between what’s being rejected and what’s not (e.g., my work as opposed to myself), but it’s definitely a process. I look forward to being invincible to rejection some day. It might take till I’m 100, but oh! the fun I’ll have then.

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