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8 Things to Absolutely Expect in Relationships

Woman receiving giftEven though there’s a lot of talk about how entitled young people are these days, I see a lack of entitlement among all age groups in my practice as a therapist.

I see people putting up with pretty poor behavior from people they love, without uttering a word of protest.

Or, if they do protest, there are no consequences when the other person ignores them and keeps on behaving the same way.

There seems to be a pervasive fear — and when I say pervasive, I mean I feel it too — of getting too … uppity.

I believe this is a hold-over from childhood. Back then, our rights were limited and if we asked for something, we didn’t always get it.

Some of us  had the experience of making important people angry by expressing our needs and desires. So we stopped asking for what we wanted/needed, and focused instead on trying to be good, humble, and generous.

We try to give others what they need, but when it comes to receiving, we’re often clueless as to what to ask for.

With this in mind, I thought of 8 things we should all be expecting from our most important relationships. How many of these are in place for you?

8 Expectations It’s Good to Have in Relationships | Psychology Today

About Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children through therapy, consulting and other resources, and offers assertiveness training and executive coaching for organizations. The author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them" and the "Guide for Parents of Estranged Adult Children," Tina is often featured in the media as an expert on communication and relationships. Her blog on PsychologyToday.com is called "Constructive Wallowing."

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