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Getting in Fights with Strangers

Two strangers  having a fightI saw a video on Facebook. Two drivers, apparently contesting a parking space, were ramming each other’s cars. They were using their vehicles like bumper cars at an amusement park. But there was nothing amusing about the video.

Below the video, people had left thousands of comments.  Many decried the stupidity of the combatants. I don’t think low intelligence had anything to do with it. I saw rage.

And I’ve been there.

I’ve never rammed someone else’s car with my own, but I have felt like it. Read More

Your Life Purpose Might Have Nothing to Do With Service

service guyThis post was inspired by this recent video from Marie Forleo, whom I appreciate and admire. It touches on the concepts of life purpose, service, and meaning.

A fan had written to Marie to ask how she could make sure her personal fulfillment didn’t decrease when she left her service profession and switched to art.

The fan was worried that her sense of meaning and purpose might suffer now that she was no longer serving others. Read More

Making Decisions Gets Easier With Practice

Young woman making decisionsI don’t like making decisions, especially about stuff I don’t have strong feelings about.

I find it easier to defer to others when I’m not sure what to do. Because guess what: It IS easier to leave decisions to other people. It’s like letting someone else clean your kitchen. How easy is that?

Making decisions all the time is a chore and a  half … but it’s one that pays off in the long run.

Think of it like exercising your muscles. Read More

Forget the Past? Bad Idea!

Person on swingset, trying to forget the pastAs a therapist, I sit with many people who’d like to forget the past, along with its most piercing injuries and disappointments, but they can’t. The past won’t let go of them.

Others have already forgotten huge chunks of their personal history, but they still feel stuck in it somehow, as if the past were so much invisible waist-high goo, keeping them from striding forward with confidence.

The Past Under Attack

There’s an almost angry insistence in our culture that the past is dead; it’s supposedly over and done with, and we should just get over it, no matter what horrible injustices we suffered, or what random awfulness took place. Read More