When I was 22 years old, I was working as an
assistant to an entrepreneur. He registered me for an expensive training to enhance my job skills, and I went. But when he
received the huge bill in the mail, he told me I should pay it myself. I was young
and intimidated, and he was forceful in his request.
I had been studying assertiveness and was able to use a technique I'd read about that
enabled me to calmly reject his repeated request. No matter what he said, I held my ground using one simple technique.
It worked like a charm.
I had the conversation I needed to have
with him, and I was able to continue working immediately after our conversation without the slightest sense of unease or distraction.
I didn't need to replay the scene in my head, since I had nothing to regret and no need for
He paid the
bill himself, and I learned later he was convinced that I'd contacted a lawyer, so confident did I seem in my position!
At the time, I was flabbergasted
at the sheer power of simple assertiveness, and I remain impressed by it to this day. If a frightened young person could use
an assertiveness technique so effectively even under stress, it's a solid technique indeed.
In my assertiveness training workshop, I teach the same technique I used that day along with providing other information drawn from the timeless work
of Ann Dickson, from my training in psychology, and my own personal experience.
This class is currently on hiatus. Email Tina if you're interested in taking it in the future.
How often do you REGRET the way you handled a conversation?
(The testimonials are
from actual workshop participants.)
class seemed to help me more than my 4-year degree! It was simple and sweet because we could easily apply what we learned
in the classroom, as we did practice the technique several times to get that experience. I find that the technique is easily
implemented in both personal life as well as on the job."
In this interactive half-day workshop you will learn
how to ask for what you want and say no:
without apologizing for yourself
wanted to offer you my sincere gratitude for your help in the Assertiveness Workshop, it has really changed my life both personally
Shrink conflict, grow self-respect
You will learn a specific, simple, 3-step technique for stating your position and feeling confident about it. You'll
learn how to become more proactive, and less reactive. You'll also get structured practice
to make sure you know how to use what you've learned.
Workshop was helpful and I enjoyed learning a specific technique when asserting myself. The class was not only informative
but interactive and this helped put the information into practice. I enjoyed asking questions and receiving answers from Tina
and the participants. I would recommend the workshop to others."
You'll get to practice and experience:
asking for a raise
saying no to a request from a friend
dealing with an inconsiderate neighbor
and other common scenarios where assertive communication makes all the difference.
the interactive exercises and appreciated how Tina created a very safe environment."
In addition to the structured exercises, you have the
option of using the technique to work on a specific
situation that calls for assertiveness in your own life, with the support of your classmates.
"Workshop was fun
and informative. Love your sense of humor and the opportunities to practice and apply the technique."
There's so little to lose, and so much to gain
This class comes with a money-back satisfaction guarantee.
If after participating in the entire 4-hour workshop you haven't gained practical, useful information that you can use immediately
both at work and at home, your workshop fee will be promptly refunded...
"I found the workshop
very useful. I've been working on applying the concepts I learned into my daily life and I'm already feeling the difference."
... but then again, if you're assertive enough to ask for your money back, you must have learned something! ;)
"I think it was
perfect as is! Thanks for the good info & very effective presentation. I'm definitely setting the intention
to use what I learned."
This class is currently on hiatus, but you can email Tina to express interest in a future workshop.
"The workshop was very well organized with a succinct format, and I found the technique
to be enlightening. I look forward to integrating it into my life!"
This workshop is for you if you want:
to increase your confidence in dealing with conflict
to avoid unpleasant exchanges in which
you feel lost and/or powerless
to stop regretting how
you handled a conversation after the fact
to create a plan to address a specific
a simple tool you can use anywhere,
never to be treated like a doormat again
"I thought the
workshop was very good, in that it simplified the problem and the technique for dealing with it. I don't see how you could
have done it any better. Thanks!"