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Do the Work You Were Born to Do

Some people are lucky enough to know what they want to do in life from the time they’re in diapers.

There are people who were always going to be doctors, people whose athletic skills destined them for the Big Leagues, people who always knew they wanted to study spiders, fish, the economy, etc.

If you’re over 30 and you still don’t know what you want to do “when you grow up,” here are a few tidbits to consider.

Aptitudes Rule

We all have aptitudes. These are inborn abilities that are never gained or lost — things we’re automatically good at without even trying.

Four examples of aptitudes are

  1. manual dexterity (think of Martha Stewart effortlessly decorating cupcakes)
  2. inductive reasoning (a boon to anyone who diagnoses anything, from doctors to plumbers to exterminators)
  3. visuo-spatial ability (high in folks who think parallel parking is fun)
  4. throwing parties (this is not really an aptitude; I’m just checking to see if you’re paying attention.)

There are many different aptitudes, and each of us has a unique (or nearly so) aptitude profile. Some people are high in this and low in that, others are the opposite, or high in both, or low in both, and there are many points along the various scales.

It seems to me that some of these inborn talents are easier to spot than others.

1. and 3. above, for example, could easily become obvious to anyone who’s paying attention to your strengths… especially if they know what to look for.

You’re naturally drawn to activities that utilize your aptitudes, so if you’re high in aptitudes 1. and 3., you’ll likely be into knitting or pottery or something that requires fiddling with your hands, and you’ll enjoy maneuvering vehicles, boxes, furniture and other objects through space.

But what if you’re very high in reasoning skills? That’s harder to spot, especially in children. Your mental gymnastics may be attributed to personality or general intelligence rather than a specific aptitude for reasoning.

So if you’re still not sure what you’re born to do, think about aptitudes with mental, rather than physical, manifestations. For example:

  • Ideaphoria – the ability to generate many ideas in a short time
  • Deductive reasoning – you can readily derive a conclusion that’s necessarily true from given facts
  • Pattern (or design) memory – the ability to remember and recreate an image
  • Memory for words and numbers – two different aptitudes, both useful in certain contexts
  • Subjectivity/objectivity – do you think differently from other people (handy for problem-solving) or would you win at Family Feud because you think like the average person (useful in social occupations)?

The above list isn’t exhaustive. It’s just to give you an idea of what might be some of your hidden assets. How can you combine these with your interests to create work you love?

If you’re my age (29 forever) you probably already have a good idea what your aptitudes are. Still, you might enjoy having them tested. It’s expensive, but the good news is that since aptitudes don’t change throughout your lifespan, you only have to be tested once!

About Aptitude Testing

If “aptitude testing” takes place exclusively online, it’s not true aptitude testing. Do it in person to get the most accurate results.

I had my aptitudes tested by the oldest aptitude testing center in the country, the Johnson O’Connor Research Foundation (JOCRF), in 2001 when I quit my job as a TV producer to pursue counseling and teaching.

The process was fun and easy, especially since there was nothing to study ahead of time, and no way to get a wrong answer. Strictly speaking, it’s aptitude assessing, not aptitude testing.

I discovered that I’m basically not-good in three dimensions. Fortunately, there’s a whole wide world of social and intellectual pursuits that don’t require me to master Zumba or fit large objects through narrow doorways.

I have no affiliation with the JOCRF and do not receive kickbacks for advertising for them. As a one-time customer, I recommend them highly if you want to get tested.

One more word about finding your passion…

If you find you have *too many aptitudes* (yes, this can be a problem), self-employment might satisfy you more than any job anyone could ever give you, especially if you have a good vocabulary. The latter is found to correlate with success in pretty much every field.

Here in Portland I teach a free class called Do the Work You Were Born to Do, in which I discuss aptitudes and how to marry them to interests to find or create work you love.

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About Tina Gilbertson

Tina Gilbertson is a psychotherapist, speaker and author based in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in supporting parents of estranged adult children through therapy, consulting and other resources, and offers assertiveness training and executive coaching for organizations. The author of "Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them" and the "Guide for Parents of Estranged Adult Children," Tina is often featured in the media as an expert on communication and relationships. Her blog on PsychologyToday.com is called "Constructive Wallowing."
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0 Responses to "Do the Work You Were Born to Do"

  • Miss Maura 9999 Charlotte, NC
    November 9, 2013 - 11:21 am Reply

    Tina, it’s been my experience that sometimes “early” apptitudes are supressed (for a variety of reasons) and therefore true passions and gifts do not manifest until well into adulthood. But once recognized and appreciated, GO WITH IT!! One will never be disappointed if one pleases oneself first.

    • Tina Gilbertson
      November 9, 2013 - 10:39 pm Reply

      Amen, sister. Thank you for this sage advice.

      To your pithy remarks I’ll add just one more word about pleasing oneself. This is crucial for the health of our society. Nothing comes from an empty well, and when we fail to give to ourselves, the well goes dry.

      We can fill the well quickly by pleasing ourselves. The bounty of our own fulfillment will spill over onto others, benefiting everyone.

  • Isabel A. Spradlin
    November 9, 2013 - 5:26 pm Reply

    Christ (pardon my blasphemy), this post makes me sweat. Count me in for parallel parking and fast driving! But the rest of it . . . is this why I’m so manically self-employed? The only other thing I recognized with any clarity was the vocabulary thing. I wonder if I got tested if they’d hand me the results, give me a wry, pitying look and say, “Good luck, young lady.”

    Uh, ok, looking at my reaction to this, I think it’s safe to say I’m feeling overwhelmed by too much work today. Would aptitude testing, ahem, assessment, fix that? 😉

    • Tina Gilbertson
      November 9, 2013 - 11:01 pm Reply

      This is the first time a reader has admitted breaking into a sweat while reading one of my posts! Considering your feelings of overwhelm, Isabel, I think before you look into aptitude testing, a nap might be in order. 😉

      As for the rest of it … um …. “Good luck, young lady”? Thank you for your comment and all the best as you sort through your multifarious aptitudes.

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